Sooo, I haven’t posted in a while because that burning need to let out all my feelings about “dealing with” my child’s feelings, choices, desires no longer exist. It doesn’t exist because now I talk about it. It is not a secret; something to hide away; something to be ashamed about. That’s how I felt. I felt ashamed. I admit it. But that is another story, another post.
I share my anecdotes about my daughter just like everyone else does. Sometimes it centers on her “questioning”; most times it doesn’t. It is just one part of who she is. And who she is is AMAZING!!
My daughter is amazing. She makes me a better person. She broadens my horizons, opens my mind and my heart. My daughter helps me to see how the world should be. A world where people are people and love is love and no one tries to dictate who someone else loves, desires, who someone IS. My daughter helps me to see that we have it all wrong. People in my generation, raised the way I was raised, with stereotypes about what makes a woman, what characteristics belongs to men, what boys do and wear and what girls do and wear…it’s just wrong. All are the stereotypes are concepts created by man and fostered by society.
My daughter is 11 years old and she is one of the bravest people I know. She has the courage to be who she IS, wear what she wants, play whatever damn sport she wants to play, and like whoever the hell she likes! And I am so lucky to have her as my child. She holds my hand and guides me and teaches me just as much as I teach her. She teaches me about how life should be.
My daughter is 11 years old. She may be gay; she may be transgender; she may be gender neutral. It does not matter anymore. It really never mattered because no matter what she is my child, I am her mom, and I love her more than anything in this world. I was always going to be her biggest advocate; her strongest support. I just had to get here. I just had to get through the fog of this reality that we have created to see what could and what should be. My daughter is freeing me from shackles I didn’t even know I had.
My child is AMAZING!